The D Word

February 9, 2017

I'm getting a divorce.

I'm not sure where to begin. I just know I can't go on pretending it's not happening. Some of you have been reading for as long as I've been blogging. Eight years, by the way. I know I don't have to tell anyone my personal business, but I want to. And after watching the latest episode of This Is Us. I finally know how. Sometimes other people have the right words when we don't.

"We stopped noticing each other, Jack.
We stopped trying to make each other happy.
When we realized that, we knew it was over.
Now I think that every single couple has a handful of these moments, when you reach a crossroads.
They're make or break, these moments.
And you either roll up your sleeves and fight for what you've got, or you decide that you're tired and you give up."


Married fifteen. Together twenty. Two kids. Two dogs.


Now what? I'll be a 38-year-old single mom in a few months. I have close friends who've gone through it. They survived, and I know I will too. But right now, it's fucking terrifying.

In time, I'll figure it all out. I'm trying to remember who I am as a person and where I want to go. One baby step at a time...


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11 comments :

krista cates said...

Wow wow wow girlie. So sorry you're having to go through this, but I know you one BAMF and you will be even more awesomer in the end! STAY STRONG!!

Christina said...

I love you! Don't ever forget how amazing you are.

And thanks for spoiling This Is Us for me. ;)

Karen said...

I picked up on what was happening, but wasn't totally sure. I'm so sorry you're going through this, but I know you're strong and you'll be okay. And you have a LOT of us who care about you.

Lou said...

Hello you, wooah I was not expecting that and I'm sorry to hear it, although, having had many friends in the same position, it can be the best thing. Take a deep breath and jump...Lou x

Myra said...

Sending you lots of happy vibes, friend ❤️ One day and one step at a time! You got this.

Allena said...

So sorry to hear this. Sending hugs your way!

Stephanie said...

There's just something about saying it out loud, isn't there? Here if you need me, but you know that :)

Talia said...

I am so sorry! Like you, I was once a 38 year old divorced mother of two. You will be okay. It will be difficult and there will be struggles, but ultimately you will be stronger and happier. Wishing you much happiness. Sending a hug your way.

Whitney Alison said...

Hugs Friend. I have been here, and its crappy, but you will survive this!

Lauren @ Lot Forty Eight said...

You have balls of steel to say "I'm not happy" and to do something about it. Your children will admire you for that and that is a priceless and invaluable lesson you are teaching them. You are also showing all those around you what being brave looks like. Good for you. You're a rockstar and a warrior. You keep surviving and soon you will realize you aren't just surviving but living and that this hell that you are in was a blessing.

Mrs. Match said...

Oh Misty, I had no idea. I'm so, so sorry. I know I may not be a "real life" friend, but I've been following along with you for the last 8 years, and I've appreciated the friendship we've built. I'm here if you need to talk. You are amazing and strong, and I know you will get through this.